We’ve already established what you’ve probably known your whole life. It’s true that change is a fact of life. We can’t escape it. Sometimes we’re given a choice in whether to make a shift in our lives. Sometimes we’re blindsided and forced to do things differently. Either way, the change usually comes with some pretty intense emotions. Too often, these feelings are negative ones. Fear, anxiety, anger, resentment and loss are commonly associated with life transitions. Let’s explore ways to take those gloomy emotions and channel them into excitement instead. Read on for some concrete ways you can channel your fear of change.
One of the best ways to go from bad feelings to more useful ones is to reframe your thoughts surrounding the emotions. The way you think has a heavy influence on the way you feel. Therefore, if you take some time to find a way to put a more positive spin on a situation, you will likely start to feel better about it. For instance, if you’re nervous about going to a job interview, try thinking about the great things that could come from new position, rather than what could go wrong. This strategy is so simple that it may even seem silly or not worth trying. I promise this is one of the most powerful shifts you can make – positive thinking has real big impact!
Visualization is another proven strategy for calming nerves and bringing peace to your thoughts. Take some quiet time to sit with your eyes closed. Then imagine the desired outcome of your current dilemma. Picture the activities you will be doing, the sights and smells around you and the people involved. The more detailed, the more effective your visualization session will be. In addition, this practice is one that should be done regularly for the most impact. Seeing what you want is an effective way to trick your brain into believing it’s already occurred.
Meditate or Breathe
If you need a quick tranquil effect in times of high anxiety, meditation or focused breathing can help. You don’t have to be an expert on meditating for it to be effective; however, you might want to do a little research if this method appeals to you. The simple act of sitting in silence and focusing on your breath is enough to calm emotions that are running high. A cumulative effect occurs when you make meditation a part of your daily routine.
A newbie in breath exercise? Try this simple trick with “triangle breathing”, breath in for 3 counts hold for three counts and exhale for three beats, repeat.
This gives you a strong focal point with the breath and allows you to regain composure and perspective.
Consider the Alternative
Finally, consider what will happen if you don’t change. Life is boring and stagnant when we avoid growth. Sure, transitions can be scary. Take a look back at the times you’ve switched things up in your life for the better, and you’ll realize that change can also bring a great many wonderful things. If you don’t move forward, take risks or overcome obstacles, you’ll never know your true potential or reach your fondest dreams.
Fear and excitement often mirror each other on the emotion chart. The butterflies and weak knees can transform into a positive force when reframed and acted on. Attitude and mindset often determine the outcome long before you take your first step.
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